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Believing in the God of the Psalmists, Part 9: God is Near

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(If you are stumbling across this for the first time, you may want to start at the beginning of the series and work your way through the links at the end of each post.  Or check out the index for this entire series of posts. We’ve learned so much about the psalmists and their relationship with God. I hope today’s is no exception.)

Option Three

I just finished reading N.T. Wright’s Simply Christian: Why Christianity Makes Sense (yes, that is an affiliate link; help a guy out and buy a copy). I really liked his explanation of the three world views for those who believe in God. There was Option One: pantheism. That view says God is everywhere because God is everything. The computer on which you are reading this is as divine the dog your are petting by your side or the baby screaming upstairs in its crib or the plastic flowers decorating your dining table. God is the sum total of all things. Then there was Option Two: deism. That view says God is in some distant realm. He created the world and is now hands off.

With the first approach, prayer is nothing more than an exercise of reaching inside and meeting the divine within you. That is not prayer, that is just introspection. With the second, prayer is nothing more than…well, nothing. It is really pointless. For the deist prayer is sending some message out into the void to one who simply doesn’t listen. If he does, he doesn’t respond.

But there was also Option Three: it says God is not everything, but He is near. It says heaven and earth connect in real ways. It says we can walk with God and talk with God. He listens and responds. His response doesn’t have to be in some space crossing, super miraculous interjection of God’s power in the world. Rather, He can work through the world because He is in the world. 

Option Three is the option the psalmists accept.

God is Near

I know this may seem odd because the Psalmists often spoke of how far away God was. “Why, O LORD, do you stand far away? Why do you hide yourself in times of trouble?” (Psalm 10:1). Or “How long will you hide your face from me?” (Psalm 13:1). Reading these statements, we may be tempted to think they took Option Two. However, that is not true. These statements showed how they felt because of their struggles. It doesn’t show what they really believed about God.

In fact, despite these feelings the Psalmists almost always come around in the very same psalms to show what they really believed. Psalm 10:14 says, “But you do see, for you note mischief and vexation, that you may take it into your hands; to you the helpless commits himself; you have been the helper of the fatherless.” Psalm 13:5-6 says, “But I have trusted in your steadfast love; my heart shall rejoice in your salvation. I will sing to the LORD, because he has dealt bountifully with me.” 

No doubt, at times it feels like God is far away, like He is hidden behind the clouds or off in the distant reaches of space ignoring us. The psalmists felt that way. But instead of turning their back on God, they went to God about it. Why? Because despite how they felt, they knew God was near. When they felt that way, they didn’t resign themselves to believe it was that way. They knew that was wrong and went God about it.

In fact, there were other times when the psalmists just flat told us God is near. 

“The LORD is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.”–Psalm 34:18.

“But you are near, O LORD, and all your commandments are true.”–Psalm 119:151.

“The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth.”–Psalm 145:18.

We can call on God. He is near. He listens. He responds. No doubt, there are times we won’t feel that way. In those times we can cry out to God because He is near. 

(Come back next week to learn that God is love.)

Something Worth Doing, Part 10: Eat Something Worth Tasting–A Guest Post by Simon Harris

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(If you need to know what this is all about, start with the first post in the series and click through the succeeding links. Also, as posts are added links will be placed in that first post to each one.)

I struggled last week because “Eat Something Worth Tasting” is the one line in the resolution poem that doesn’t just resonate with me immensely. Don’t get me wrong, I like to eat stuff that is worth tasting, but it is not a life philosophy for me like it was for Kelsey and is for her dad, Simon. 

So, thanks to Simon Harris for providing this guest post to get a better look at what this point meant for Kelsey.

By the way, don’t forget to check out The Kelsey Wynne Harris Foundation and the “Life Is More Interesting” merchandise to help support the foundation (once again, these are not affiliate links, none of the purchase money goes to my pocket).

Eat Something Worth Tasting, by Simon Harris

When first I saw “Eat something worth tasting” on Kelsey’s list of New Year’s resolutions, I thought, “That’s my girl!” One of the things Kels and I shared was a love for food, not in a gluttonous sort of way, but in an adventurous way. We loved trying new foods and experimenting with different flavors and spices. We rarely ate leftovers, and when we did they were most often used creatively to make a new dish. Even now when I fix myself lunch I can hear Kelsey asking, “Daddy, what are you having for lunch?” That was her way of saying, “Let’s throw something together.” When we’d go to a new restaurant we were always sure to get different dishes so we could try what the other one ordered. She loved all kinds of food; hot & spicy, savory, sweet, fried, grilled, smoked, baked, Italian, Indian, Chinese, Mexican, meat & potatoes; you name it, she’d at least try it!
 
As Edwin said, we have a family rule that while on vacation we do not eat anywhere we could eat at home. While at home we might love Chili’s, Outback Steakhouse, Red Lobster, and Steak n Shake, but on vacation they are anathema! It’s part of the adventure of vacation, and even more, it’s part of the adventure of living. While that might mean an occasional dud, even that then becomes a funny memory we can share. But, when you have this adventurous attitude about life, the duds are few and far between (not to mention that a little research goes a long way!).
 
In truth, “Eat something worth tasting” is more about living than it is about eating. Eating is really a metaphor for Kelsey’s view of life. When she ate, she loved every part of it–the sights, the smells, the tastes, the textures, the subtle nuances. What she loved was the experience of eating. Eating was always an event for her. She hated eating on the run, and she was always disappointed when eating was an afterthought. That same attitude was translated into everything she did. She loved going to the library because she loved the smells, the feel of the books, being surrounded by other bibliophiles, and of course, the stacks and stacks of precious books, every one with the ability to take you to fantastic and far away places! She loved doing things many teenagers would think was beneath them, like hanging out with her younger brother and sister, and even her parents, because it was an experience.
 
Kels was very much a “live for the moment” kind of person. Here’s what I mean; she got every ounce of enjoyment out of every thing she did. She loved the anticipation of what was coming, she enjoyed every second of what she was doing, then she loved talking about all the fun she had doing it! We had a rule for Kels when company would come that she could only make three comments about summer camp, and it was a rule we always had to enforce. She just loved life! And why shouldn’t she? Shortly before her death, a friend posted a question on Pleonast, “Have you been blessed?” Kelsey’s response was, “Hehe, asking if I’ve been blessed is like asking a vegetarian if he eats vegetables. Yay for bad analogies!!“ You might think this was a girl with cancer. You might think this was girl who was in a wheelchair. But really it was a girl who knew that God had blessed her far more than cancer had wounded her.
 
Here’s my advice to you from all this: Enjoy the experience of living. Savor the sights, the smells, and the tastes. Relish the mundane day-to-day tasks of your existence. Take pleasure in the little events that make up life under the sun. This is the great lesson Solomon taught in Ecclesiastes. Read it sometime noticing how many times he tells us to be content and enjoy life (Ecc. 2:24; 3:12-13, 22; 5:18-19). Added to that, I’d say don’t be afraid to try something new. There is so much good we can experience if we’d just try it. There is so much good we could accomplish if we’d just try it. Failure is not the worst thing that can happen to us. It is far worse to regret never having tried. Even in failure there are lessons to learn, lessons we need to learn. Life is not a spectator sport!
 
In his blog Edwin said that we should stop the whining. Can you see that when you live today with the resolution to “eat something worth tasting” there’s no place for whining? To live with that resolve is to enjoy today, regardless of what’s thrown at you, because every day has it’s own unique flavors, textures, smells, and nuances to be enjoyed! 

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Thanks, Simon.

Come back next week as we move on to talk about hugging someone worth holding.

I Have the Most Amazing Wife!

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Yesterday, my cousin rebuked me for my blog posts asking, “How come your blog posts are never titled, ‘I have the most amazing wife…'”? She added later, “…and cousin.”

I Have the Most Amazing Wife

The fact is, I do have the most amazing wife. She has put up with me for over 14 years. She works day in and day out raising my children (don’t worry all you women’s libbers, I do my part of that too. She just spends all day with them). That includes schooling them, training them, mediating fights for them, feeding them, disciplining them, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. She cooks. She cleans. She manages. She shows hospitality. Did I mention she puts up with me? She is patient with me (most of the time). She forgives me. She moderates me. She humbles me. 

The list could go on and on.

The thing is, I don’t tell her these things enough. Sure, they make their way into a birthday, anniversary, or Christmas card. Maybe a Valentine’s and Mother’s day card. But those don’t have the same impact. I’m supposed to say that stuff on those days. I need to let her know that is how I feel about her all the time. 

The Springboard for Your Family

Today’s springboard is not for you to know that I have a wonderful wife. Rather, you need to look at the folks in your family and let them know how amazing you think they are. Whether wife, husband, children, parents, or extended family, don’t just wait for special days to let them know you think they are amazing. Tell them today.

Do so without expectations. Don’t do it fishing for a compliment. Don’t do it hoping you’ll get “benefits.” Don’t do it because you want something. Just tell them because you really love them and want them to know. And then don’t wait very long before you tell them again.

Have a great week with your family.

P.S.

I guess I have a pretty decent cousin too.

Believing in the God of the Psalmists, Part 8: God is My Shepherd

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(If you are stumbling across this for the first time, you may want to start at the beginning of the series and work your way through the links at the end of each post.  Or check out the index for this entire series of posts. We’ve learned so much about the psalmists and their relationship with God. I hope today’s is no exception.)

 

God is My Shepherd

Psalm 28:9 says: “Oh, save your people and bless your heritage! Be their shepherd and carry them forever.”

Psalm 80:1 says: “Give ear, O Shepherd of Israel, you who lead Joseph like a flock!”

However, the psalm we think of the most when it comes to shepherding is Psalm 23.

The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want.
He makes me lie down in green pastures.
He leads me beside still waters.
He restores my soul.
He leads me in paths of righteousness
for his name’s sake.

Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,
I will fear no evil,
for you are with me;
your rod and your staff,
they comfort me.

You prepare a table before me
in the presence of my enemies;
you anoint my head with oil;
my cup overflows.
Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me
all the days of my life,
and I shall dwell in the house of the Lord
forever.

But what does it mean to be a shepherd. I love Phillip Keller’s book, A Shepherd Looks at Psalm 23. (Yes, that is an affiliate link. Help a guy out, click the link and buy the book.) I encourage you to get this book for a deep study of this relationship.

However, for our brief purposes, we see a shepherd as a leader, a provider, a protector and a restorer.

1. God is My Leader

As my shepherd, I follow God’s lead. As Americans, we don’t like this much. We like to strike out on our own. We like to go it on our own. We want to blaze a trail. We want to lead the way. We want to find and discover new things for ourselves. Sadly, when we sheep try to do this, we get ourselves in trouble. We burrow into brambles from which we cannot escape. We discover fields with poisonous weeds and diseased grounds. We actually don’t really go anywhere, we just trample our own little circle until it is useless. 

As long as we see ourselves as our own leaders, we are going to be in trouble. We have to see God as our leader, our shepherd. When we, like the psalmists, become excited about God as our shepherd, we change. We don’t strike out on our own. We follow the leader. We know we can trust Him. His leadership is beside quiet, still waters, not trampled, disturbed, diseased waters. He makes us lie down in green pastures. He leads us in paths of righteousness. We know that He will lead us on to the higher ground, the greener pastures.

How could we not pray like the psalmists when we understand the only leader we can trust is God?

2. God is My Provider

He prepares a table. Some suggest this sections changes the metaphor from shepherd to host at a banquet. Perhaps that is the case. However, I am not completely convinced. But in either case we learn about our God. He provides for us. He feeds us. 

He sets the table for my spiritual feast. He anoints my head with oil. My cup overflows. I’ll never thirst while under His care. Therefore, I can expect goodness and mercy to follow me all the days of my life.

Oh, I know that I can’t sit on my hands and just expect God to drop food down from heaven. But, in the end, I understand that every good gift I have comes from the Father above. How could we not pray like the psalmists when we understand that the only true source of all good gifts is God our Shepherd.

3. God is My Protector

Our enemies roam about us. The path we walk is the valley of the shadow of death. Predators and dangers loom large on all sides. We are but sheep. We have no defenses. If we did try to defend ourselves, the most we could accomplish is to run in circles, bleating helplessly until we collapse from exhaustion only making ourselves easier targets. While we rely on ourselves from protection, our only hope is death.

However, our God is the good shepherd. He protects us from the enemy. We need fear no evil. God, with His rod and staff, will protect us. Yes, we can’t help but see discipline in that rod. But we know our God’s discipline is for our good. We can trust Him, even if we don’t always understand it at the time. The enemies may look on, but they cannot overpower us. No matter what we face, we know our Shepherd will carry us through and bring us out on the other side.

That doesn’t mean we will never face hard times. That doesn’t mean we’ll never face flash floods, rock slides, predatory attacks on our journey to the table top grazing lands. It simply means our Shepherd will lead us through. If we will only follow Him.

How can we not pray like the psalmists when we know our only hope against the enemy that attacks is our Shepherd?

4. God is My Restorer

Perhaps this is the most important. We are sheep. Even when we love our Shepherd, we go astray at times. That is just what we do. We wander on to a ledge to get a little scrub of grass and then can’t find our way back. We get caught in a thicket from which we cannot escape. We wander out of the prepared field into dangerous regions. Sometimes we just get lazy, lay down, roll over, and can’t get up. 

We thrash about. We bleat and holler. We kick and scream. We run in circles. Eventually, we stop, exhausted, downcast, distressed. There is nothing we can do. All seems lost. Our only hope is a quick and painless death, but we know it will be a slow and painful process.

However, we do not have to fear, our ever watchful Shepherd is there. Instead of disinheriting us for acting like sheep. He restores us. He refreshes us. He provides for us. He comforts us. He sets us back on the path of righteousness and leads us onward.

What a great shepherd we have.

How can we not pray like the psalmists when we know our Shepherd wants to restore us, lifting us up on His shoulders, carrying us back to the clear streams and green pastures, comforting us?

If we want to pray like the psalmists, we must be as sheep and let God be our Shepherd. He is the great God who loves, leads, provides, protects, and restores.

(Come back next week as we learn that the Psalmists saw God as near.)

Something Worth Doing, Part 9: Eat Something Worth Tasting

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Before I get to today’s post, I want to share with you the newly established Kelsey Wynne Harris Foundation. The website is still under construction and the foundation is just getting under way so keep your eyes on that site to learn more about the foundation and what it will accomplish. However, at the site as it is, you can already find Kelsey’s story and read some of her writings. 

Kelsey’s number one key while she fought her cancer was to maintain happiness. When asked how she could always be so happy, she said with maturity beyond her years, “Life’s more interesting when your happy.” That has become a mantra for many who knew or were touched by Kelsey. The goal of the foundation is to help promote happiness in other cancer patients. They will be giving free gifts prompted by this quote to cancer patients, plus providing scholarships for others to attend Kelsey’s favorite summer camp. Who knows where else this will go to give encouragement, comfort, and happiness to others afflicted with this most depressing and debilitating disease.

If you would like to help the foundation, you can do so by purchasing t-shirts and other memorabilia emblazoned with Kelsey’s quote, “Life’s more interesting when your happy.” I think the quote can help no matter what you’re dealing with. Not to mention when you purchase this reminder you are helping spread happiness to others who are suffering.

By the way, none of the links on this page have any kind of affiliate program going on. None of the money from your purchases will be wasted on greasing my pockets. It will all go to help Kelsey’s foundation. So, feel free to use the links on this post with impunity.

Eating Something Worth Tasting

(If you need to know what this is all about, start with the first post in the series and click through the succeeding links. Also, as posts are added links will be placed in that first post to each one.)

Today, I want to…

Eat Something Worth Tasting.

Does this sound familiar?

“Where do you want to eat tonight?”

“I don’t know; where do you want to eat?”

“I don’t know; what sounds good to you?”

“I don’t know.”

The conversation goes back and forth, you begin to list all the restaurants in the area. Despite the delicious offerings each restaurant represents you just can’t seem to decide what your taste buds want. This is choice overload. This past Sunday was Fathers Day. My family and I drove around trying to decide what to eat. The really sad part about it was the number of restaurants we checked off our list because that would be just like going out when we normally go out. We wanted something special, something different from the norm.

There are folks in huge sections of the world who just can’t fathom this massive amount of choice that we Americans have when it comes to eating. There are some folks whose goal today is hopefully just to get to eat something. But we have a greater blessing. We get to choose what tastes good to us.

I know why this made the cut on Kelsey’s resolution list. Kelsey, following in the footsteps of her dad, loved to check out local flavor. She was an amateur restaurant critic. She loved to try the new. After all, she never knew exactly when she was going to eat something really worth tasting. In fact, Kelsey and her dad had a rule on vacation—never eat anywhere they could eat while at home.

I’m actually kind of envious. I’m more of a creature of habit. I look around and see restaurants I don’t recognize and think, “Oh no, what if I don’t like that.” They stepped up to the challenge as a way of life. When I go out to eat later tonight, I’ll probably order the exact same thing I ordered the last few times. Why? Because I know that is worth tasting.

Interestingly, what I get from this is we both want to eat something worth tasting today, but we come at it from different angles. I’m sure on all the points of this resolution list, I see things a little differently than Kelsey did, but on this one, we are at opposite ends of the spectrum. Perhaps we can get Simon, Kelsey’s dad, to do a guest post some time to help us see Kelsey’s desire to eat something worth tasting.

For me, this statement just makes me think about the amazing blessings in our lives. Of course, the amazing thing about the internet is that people from all over the world can read this. Perhaps you don’t enjoy these blessings, but my American readers do.

I get to have a handful of favorites because we have the same restaurants all over the place. Kelsey and her dad could continually try something new because there are seemingly endless choices.

Amazingly, for all of this, we still try to act like we are so poor. We gripe because we don’t have so many different things. We act like God has withheld so many blessings from us. But think about it. We can have “I want to eat something worth tasting” on our list of goals for the day.

Here’s the challenge for today. Make today a whine free day. Make it a day where you do nothing but count your blessings. Make a list of the many ways in which you are blessed. Can you see? (You are reading a blog.) Can you hear? Can you talk? Can you breathe? Have you eaten? Do you have clothes on? Are your clothes clean? Were they cleaned in a washing machine? Do you have extra clothes in your closet? Are you reading this on a computer? Did you drive your car today? Can you walk?

Do you see the point? How blessed are you?

Don’t take the simple things for granted. God doesn’t owe them to you. He could take them away at any moment. Count your blessings today and give thanks. In fact, make that a daily exercise. Write out a gratitude list each day of 5, 10, 20 things you are thankful for. See how that doesn’t change your view of your life. Somewhere on the list, you may want to include that you got to eat something worth tasting.

(Come back next week for a guest post by Simon Harris, Kelsey’s dad, about this same topic, eating something worth tasting.)

5 Keys for Pursuing the Actions of Love

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We’ve been learning about the importance of cleaning up our side of the street and four keys to accomplishing that goal. However, we can only keep our side of the street clean by pursuing actions of love in all our relationships. In fact, that was step 4 of keeping our side of the street clean.

The burning question is how? How do we pursue the actions of love in all our relationships. Let me share 5 keys that will help you pursue the actions of love in all your relationships.

Key #1: Give, don’t take.

Sadly, the number one way we junk up our side of the street is by taking from others. Perhaps we cheat someone in a business deal. Perhaps we lie to them to get our way. Perhaps we lust after them and store their image in our minds for our own purposes. Perhaps we manipulate them to get what we want. When we are bound by self we take and take and take. We may never actually steal something physically from them, but we are taking from others all the time.

All the stuff we take goes somewhere. It goes right on our side of the street. How do we get rid of all that? Change the very nature of our relationships. Instead of viewing others for what we can get from them, we need to see what we can give to them. We need to give and not take. 

Give time. Give support. Give love. Give prayers. Give money. Give material things. Give honesty. Give honor. Give credit. Give whatever you can, to whoever you can, whenever you can.

Key #2: Serve, don’t rule

Too many of us walk around like despots of our own little kingdom, acting as if everyone in our family, on our job, at our school, in our neighborhood is here to support and serve us. When we do, relationships run amok. Our street is junked up by all the wounded people we have tread on in our attempts to be the king of the hill.

Taking the actions of love means serving instead of ruling. Taking the actions of love means going out of our way to help others. When someone asks for help, don’t roll your eyes, exhale your frustration, or passive aggressively rebel. Just do it. Do it because you love them. View it as an excellent opportunity to show them you care.

But don’t always wait until they ask for help. Find ways you can serve. If you look around the house and see a mess, don’t get upset at everyone else who hasn’t cleaned up. Just clean up and show love. Is something broken? Don’t start a witch hunt to find the culprit, just fix it. Yes, yes, I do understand that while dealing with children there is a time to teach them about cleaning up and not breaking things. But even then, make sure your attitude is not one of getting vengeance on them, but rather one of serving them by helping them grow to maturity.

Key #3: Sacrifice

We take giving to a new level here. This means giving even when it hurts. This means taking of our own and giving to others. 

Maybe we don’t want to watch the game, go to the store, eat at that restaurant, watch the kids, etc. That is when we are really put to the test about pursuing the actions of love. When we go to the opposite of our selfish nature, we are going to be sacrificing a lot. We may not get everything we want. We may give up some of our precious time. We may not achieve all our desires. 

Jesus said the greatest love is to lay down our lives for a friend. That is the ultimate sacrifice. Many of us claim we would lay down our lives for our friends and family. Yet, we won’t even take the trash out for them. We won’t give up our favorite tv show to help them. We won’t take the time to drive across town to give them a lift. If we won’t give up a few minutes of our life for them, what makes us think we would give up our entire lives for them. 

Key #4: Acts as if

The hardest part is there are times when we just don’t feel the love for all these other people. Perhaps they have hurt us. Or perhaps our selfishness is just kicking in and instead of demonstrating love we’d rather lick our wounds, defend ourselves, pursue our rage. This is time for one of those great pieces of advice that helps in numerous ways. Act as if. 

Act as if you loved them. In other words, don’t act the way you feel. Stop and ask, “If I actually loved this person, what would I do next?” Then do that, whether you feel it or not.

Good strong feelings of love will grow if you pursue the actions of love. If you are going to wait around for the right feeling, you are probably going to be in big trouble.

Key #5: Do all of this without expectations

Here is the real clincher that makes any and all of this a true action of love. Do it without expectations. If you are only doing these things because you expect something in return, you are pursuing actions of manipulation, not love.

Fix the leaky faucet without expecting a thank you. Cook supper and clean up the kitchen without expecting accolades of praise. Offer praise and honor to others without expecting them to return the favor. Guys, clean up after the kids without expecting your wife to pay you back in the bedroom later. Pursue the actions of love without expecting everyone else to pursue actions of love with you.

I have no doubt that in most cases, when you pursue actions of love, you relationships will improve. You will be noticed. You will be praised. But if that is the only reason you are doing these things, it will be short lived. It will be especially short lived because you won’t likely make it out of the phase in which everyone else is saying, “What on earth do you want?” At first, everyone will assume you are manipulating them. But if you keep it up because you weren’t expecting anything, some of your relationships will really change for the better.

A friend once told me that expectations are just premeditated resentment. The fact is, expectations are actually us working on someone else’s side of the street. We expect them to have a clean street. When they don’t we get bitter. Don’t go down that side of the road. Stay on your side.

Of course, I need to offer the caveat to those who are on the receiving end. Even though the one pursuing actions of love is not doing this to receive a thank you, be noticed, or get rewarded. You really should at least say thank you. If you don’t, then you aren’t pursuing actions of love, are you?

If you want great relationships, quit trying to fix everyone else. Clean up your side of the street. Pursue actions of love no matter what anyone else is doing. I can’t promise every relationship will be stellar. However, you will have the serenity of knowing that you are working on and growing in what is right.